Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Nuptuality
Marriage is a funny thing. It's a festive thing. It's a tacky thing. It's a sacred thing. And apparently, it's an 'under attack' thing too. I'm starting my own this fall, which has forced me to enter the wacky culture of weddings and figure out where my fiancé and I belong. All I've figured out so far is that a wedding is an excuse to buy things, sell things, get publicity, and get drunk. But ultimately it's a very self-involved thing, so of course OUR wedding will be perfect. Music is "There is Love" by The Captain & Tennille.
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Finally! So glad to see you turning your mirthfinkle towards your wedding planning. Loved it!
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.
I got married in 1995 and I remember the thing that struck me about planning a wedding is what a RACKET and a MACHINE it is. Dealing with vendors was a real trip because they have a very set-in-stone way of doing things and have a cookie cutter format that they like to follow so that every wedding is exactly the same. God forbid you should want to be original in any way. It throws them for such a loop.
For example, the photographer we hired couldn't wrap his mind around the idea of candid photography...i.e. minimal posed shots, and mostly candid shots. When we got our photos back, it was obvious he didn't hear us.
The deejay couldn't wrap his mind around the idea that I was not taking my husband's last name and he should NOT announce me as "Mrs. John Doe" under any circumstances. He actually had the balls to argue with me about the whole concept of not taking my husband's name (I almost fired him).
When I went shopping for my wedding gown, I found a GORGEOUS white gown that was perfect and best of all, only $350! It was the first gown I tried on and I instantly fell in love with it, and it fit me like a glove (no alterations). The saleslady came up to me and asked me what the occasion was for the gown. I said, "my wedding". "Ohhh. That's not a WEDDING gown. That's a PROM gown." I guess since it was only $350, it couldn't be used for a wedding.
It goes on and on and on. You really have to stand firm to get things the way you want them, because any deviation from the cookie cutter expectations will be met with resistance.
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